Added: Eitan Sellman - Date: 23.11.2021 15:22 - Views: 20676 - Clicks: 2697
I meet tons of women, but few ever catch my interest in the way my interest needs to be caught. I used to devote a lot of time into searching for someone I can be with, someone I can love and share my life with. Finding that right person is basically entirely up to chance.
What type of person would that be? Someone who is capable of understanding another better than he or she can understand him or herself. But you won't find it spending your life searching for that someone. However, actively searching -- dedicating ificant time to meeting new people for the hopes of finding the love of your life -- is pretty much futile. There are surely other things you could be doing and working on.
I remember being younger and dreaming about meeting the perfect girl -- I was always a romantic. Finding the right one too soon will break your heart. It will change the way you understand love and the way you look at the world. Why not explore how well you can actually get to know someone?
People seem to think that getting to know someone is easy -- you just spend time with that person and you automatically learn all you need to know. Most of the relationships we have in our lives -- not just romantic relationships, but relationships of all kinds -- are shallow. We rarely get to know someone on the deepest of levels.
Hell, most conversations consist of one person talking and the other simply waiting to respond. Rarely do people bother to listen. We spend hours searching for our passports, our keys, a specific document we managed to misplace. We search and search and search until we run out of time. Then, the next day, we happen to stumble on whatever it is that we were searching for with no effort at all. You think you know the type of person you are looking for. You think you know where you are most likely to find him or her. You think you have it all figured out, but then life surprises you.
You meet someone more incredible than you could have ever imagined and you end up meeting him or her in the most unlikely fashion. Welcome to life. You may one day be, but are you that right person right now? We spend so much time thinking about the type of man or woman we want to spend our lives with that we never really bother to consider the type of person that special someone wants to spend his or her life with.
Instead of spending so much time searching, work instead on bettering yourself as an individual. There are plenty of potential "ones" out there -- rather, you should look for someone who understands you. Someone who sees the real you. This is the hardest thing to find in life and arguably the most beautiful.
There are plenty of people who could be the love of your life. However, keep in mind that there are a lot of other factors at play. Sometimes life events make falling for someone new improbable. Most people look to love as a solution to their problems. Most think that finding someone to love will make their problems disappear. Falling in love is all-consuming. However, as the love matures, our vision begins to clear and the problems we thought disappeared resurface. We will always have problems, so avoiding love until we fix all that we need to fix will leave us alone for our whole lives.
Yet, we should keep in mind that being in a relationship when we are living lives we hate will basically guarantee a failed relationship. Eventually you will need to take care of what needs to be taken care of -- making huge life changes can be very difficult when you are entirely independent. Once you give up on someone, getting him or her back becomes nearly impossible. By Paul Hudson. Searching is active and it takes a lot of time -- you have more important things to focus on. We live in a world in which nobody seems to truly understand anybody.
Whenever you actively look for something, how often do you actually end up finding it? Search Close.Look for some on special
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